True education is to help each flower grow in its own way.
Each child’s growing up story reflects a wonderful family background and so are the genes of every child and the environment in which they grow up. Xi’an Liangjiatan International School invited some of its parents to share their unique parenting stories at the “Parent Talk” series event. This action aims to encourage more parents to discuss and reflect on how we can better support the studies and lives of our IB learners, while also providing engaging learning opportunities for students of all ages and from diverse backgrounds.
The 1st XLIS Parent Talk in 2023
Mr. Doyoung Kim from South Korea has just moved to Xi’an. He has worked nearly 30 years with the “Samsung” Group, and has a daughter who is about to enter her DP years. During his speech, he not only told the story of his daughter’s growth of confidence through learning Japanese, but also shared his own experience in family education. He believes that the establishment of a healthy parent-child relationship is a necessary prerequisite for the healthy growth of children. Since a young age, every time his daughter is faced with making a decision, he chooses to encourage her to try more and explore more, rather than directly help her to make a decision. We must let the child choose independently, and be responsible for his or her choice. As a father, he has always practiced a truth of his own – giving children the ability to pursue their dreams is the best gift that parents can give their children.
When Lucy’s mother, a fifth grader in XLIS’ middle school, talked about the changes that the International Diploma Program curriculum had brought her daughter, it was hard not to share her excitement. Through her sincere narration, we learned how an introverted girl who used to be “obedient”, has grown into today’s enthusiastic, cheerful, and brave girl. This change of personality has led to a series of chain reactions: an increased self-confidence, a greater sense of self-efficacy, and a firmer love for writing。This is what she and her husband expect from the international baccalaureate curriculum framework.” The key to home-school joint education is to discover our child’s personality, adapt to change, and help her find a suitable environment and educational model, so that she can grow to be an excellent student.”
The 2nd XLIS Parent Talk in 2023
In the middle school years, students should prioritize taking action to foster their well-rounded development while balancing their daily homework load. The CAS program is a vital component of the International Baccalaureate (IB) curriculum, which places a premium on higher development requirements for international students. Dr. Shirvani, mentioned as parents, we must ask ourselves: how can we support our children’s growth and development?
According to him, creative outlets such as music, drama, writing, and physical fitness can help unlock students’ artistic imagination and creativity. However, these activities serve not only as ends in themselves but also as means to reinforce their skills and abilities.
In addition, participating in outdoor sports and community service as volunteers can further enrich our children’s development. Dr. Shirvani also stresses the importance of cultivating independent thinking, problem-solving skills, and a sense of identity and exploration in our children.
Let us work together as parents to help our children realize their full potential by nurturing their creativity, action, and service.
She mentioned that different family and cultural backgrounds give birth to different types of parenting anxiety. As a parent, if you want to understand the immediate needs of your child in time and provide effective help to your child, you should first dare to recognize your limitations in all aspects of knowledge and ability, and not hesitate to ask your child for advice. Secondly, in order to keep pace with children, parents should also learn to actively explore and make full use of the teaching platform provided by the school (Managebac) to understand the daily learning content of children. Only in this way can we keep the same frequency and resonance of thinking with children, help them develop healthily and comprehensively, and accumulate strength to meet the ever-changing future world.
According to Mr. Kyoung Kim, starting a dialogue based on children’s interests is the first step for both sides to understand each other. When there is a dispute, don’t avoid it, because it is a good time for parents and children to understand each other’s needs and establish rules. The first prerequisite for harmonious coexistence with adolescent children is to recognize and accept each other’s differences, and to confess our shortcomings as parents. All this will eventually lead to an end point – respect the existence of children as independent individuals and make “becoming friends” no longer a distant dream between parents and children.
Cultivating our young learners to be talented global citizens for future is the eternal theme of education. Since every family has its own unique DNA, there are bound to be personality differences during children’s growth and the process of education. The“Parent Talk”series event aims to promote communication through sharing different parenting cases and encourage educators to discuss and reflect on how we can better support the studies and lives of our IB learners.
The couplet hanging on the “Shuyuan Men” which located on the Chinese corridor of our school, states: “The benevolent for others, scholars for themselves; the superior man is broad-minded and not a partisan, striving for harmony in diversity.” This excerpt from the Analects of Confucius demonstrates the international education philosophy that our school has always adhered to. Each flower has its own flowering season, we believe that as long as the heart is cared for, it will have its own beautiful blooming season! Thanks for our parents’ authentic sharing!
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Fancy Fan (Admin Officer)